How crazy is that?. These objects although attractive in themselves trigger bad associations yet still I hold onto them. I can understand that holding onto items belonging to people we love are difficult to part with. But what about items that were given to us who were not quite so special? Here I’m talking about ex partners, colleagues and ‘frenemies.’
For example I was given a gift by an ex colleague at a birthday party at which she behaved quite rudely. Fortunately I didn’t work with her for very long but I kept her gift because it was useful and beautiful. And yet whenever I look at it it reminds me of her and brings up negative feelings. The same with a necklace given to me by an ex boyfriend. I’ve never worn it, it’s not really my style – yet I hang onto it and whenever I see it it reminds me of a relationship which failed. Madness!
The question is why? Why do I hold onto these gifts? What is stopping me parting with them? I’m not so sure. Are they a subtle reminder to trust my instincts when it comes to people? In both these cases I had had misgivings about the friendship and the relationship. Or is it simply that as usual I am reluctant to let go of my clutter. Maybe this is just another excuse to stop me doing this?
Either way, the charity bag is beckoning. What are your motivations (excuses) for keeping hold of clutter?